Pregnancy Trauma Support for Women & birthing people
If your experience of sexual trauma is affecting how you feel about pregnancy or birth.
You do not need to have all the answers. You do not need to use the word "trauma" if it does not feel right. You just need to feel that something about this experience is harder than it should be, and it might connect to something that happened before.
What I keep seeing
Women and birthing people come to me who have done everything right. They have read the books. They have written the birth plan. They feel ready.
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And then something shifts. The body responds to something the preparation cannot reach. Something that has nothing to do with this pregnancy, this baby, this labour. But the body does not know that.
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If that sounds familiar, this support is for you.
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You may carry a history of sexual trauma. You may carry experiences you have never spoken about. You may not be sure whether what happened to you "counts." It counts. And it may be shaping how you feel about pregnancy, birth, and your body in ways that are hard to explain.
This support may be right for you if
You carry a history of sexual trauma and it is affecting how you feel about pregnancy, birth, or your body
Certain parts of maternity care feel frightening in ways you cannot fully explain
You feel anxious about examinations, intimate touch, exposure, or loss of control during birth
You had a previous birth that felt traumatic and you think it may connect to earlier experiences
You have never spoken about what happened but you feel it is present in how your body responds
You want someone alongside you who understands the connection between sexual trauma and the birth experience
Is this the right support for you?
Before you get in touch
I work specifically with women whose experience of pregnancy or birth is affected by sexual trauma. This is a specialism, not a general service. Here is how to tell if this is the right fit.
This support is not designed for
General birth anxiety or fear of birth that is not connected to sexual trauma
Processing a traumatic birth caused by clinical complications or poor care alone
Therapy, counselling, or mental health treatment
Couples counselling or relationship support
Support during labour and birth (doula care)
If you are not sure whether this is the right fit, that is okay. Get in touch and we can talk it through. If this is not the right support for you, I will help you find someone who is.
Compassionate, non-clinical support
What WE offer
Trauma-informed support during pregnancy, birth preparation, and postpartum.
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Everything moves at your pace.
One-to-one birth preparation
Preparing for birth with an understanding of how your history may shape the experience. Not generic classes. Preparation that starts from where you actually are.
Survivor-informed birth planning
Creating a birth plan that accounts for your triggers, your boundaries, and what you need from the people around you. A plan that protects you, not just a wish list.
Understanding what feels difficult
Identifying what about pregnancy or birth feels frightening, and finding what helps. Naming it is the first step toward feeling safer.
Tools to feel calmer and more present
Practical techniques to help you stay grounded when anxiety, fear, or body memories surface. Things you can actually use, not theory.
Postpartum birth debrief
Processing a difficult birth experience. Making sense of what happened, how it felt, and what it means to you now. No judgement. No rush.
Advocacy with your maternity team
Help communicating your needs to your midwife, consultant, or birth team. Making sure your care plan reflects what you actually need, not what is assumed.
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A conversation
Email or use the contact form. Tell me as much or as little as you want.
Funded support sessions through SAFER Birth Project CIC.
Places are limited. If there is currently a wait, I will let you know honestly and help you find interim support if you need it.
We offer a limited number of funded, non-clinical support sessions for women & birthing people whose experience of pregnancy, birth, or the postpartum period is affected by sexual trauma. You do not need to pay. You do not need a referral. You do not need a diagnosis.
Support is offered in short, focused pathways so that each woman and person receives practical, trauma-informed help while allowing the project to support as many women and birthing people as possible.
1 funded session
Birth Clarity Session
60-75 minutes
A one-off, focused conversation for women who need help with something specific: an upcoming appointment, a fear, a decision, or simply understanding what feels difficult. This session is also the starting point for women who are not sure which support they need.
1 funded session
Postpartum Birth Debrief
60-75 minutes
A gentle, focused space to talk through a difficult birth experience where you suspect or know that sexual trauma played a part in how the birth felt. A safe first space to be heard, make sense of what happened, and identify next steps.
This support is provided free through SAFER Birth Project CIC, made possible by grants and partnerships.
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Brief conversation
A short, no-pressure call to see if this is the right support for you.
Funded support
1 funded session
Advocacy Preparation
60-75 minutes
A focused session to prepare for a specific maternity appointment, consultant conversation, induction discussion, or care planning meeting. You leave with clear wording, prepared questions, and a communication plan.
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Agree a pathway
Together we choose which pathway fits what you need right now.
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Sessions begin
Online. At your pace.
On your terms.
What to expect
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A conversation
We start by talking. There is no pressure to share anything you are not ready to share. You tell me what feels difficult. I listen.
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At your pace
Sessions are available online via Microsoft teams, zoom or Google meet. You do not need a referral or a diagnosis. Some people see me once. Some throughout pregnancy.Â
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On your terms
You do not need to tell me what happened to you. You do not need to use the word "trauma." You just need to feel that something is not straightforward and you want someone who understands why.
An important note
This is not therapy. I am not a counsellor or psychologist. What I offer is experienced, trauma-aware support from someone who has spent 14 years alongside women and birthing people during pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period, and who understands how sexual trauma can shape that journey.
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If you need specialist trauma therapy or mental health support, I can help you find the right person. Sometimes what you need is both: a therapist for the deeper work, and someone like me for the practical, pregnancy-specific support alongside it.
"You do not have to have all the answers before you reach out. You just have to feel that something is not quite right."
If this feels right for you
There is no obligation. No form to fill in. Just a conversation to see if this is the right support for you.
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You can email me directly. Tell me as much or as little as you want. I will reply personally within 48 hours.
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If this is not the right fit, I will tell you honestly and help you find someone who is.
hello@saferbirthproject.co.uk